Over a year ago, I wrote about wanting to stop being lazy and start holding myself accountable for getting things done… oops! In some ways, I did accomplish that goal – when I wrote it, I was a few weeks pregnant with our second child! After an incredibly hormonal pregnancy and several months of postpartum issues, I am finally back on my game! With a weekly deadline, no less.
I love being home with my children and it is truly a dream-come-true to be able to spend every day with them. But as all of you Marvy Moms reading this can attest to, kids are messy. Not just in the ‘need a bath’ sense, but also in the ‘no schedule goes uninterrupted’ sense. In my working life, I was much more of a micro-manager than I ever thought I would be, and I have found it catching up with me.
After 2 years of being out of the working world, I have come to accept that I need outside deadlines. No matter how many cleaning schedules I try to follow, my house is never clean until 2 hours before a guest comes over. I take books out of the library with every intent to be a voracious reader, and wind up trying to cram it all in the day I get the email saying they are overdue. Gifts? Bought on the way to birthday dinners. Dinner? I forget to defrost meat or turn on crock pot and so I end up throwing something together from leftovers or make my husband pick up something on his way home. You get the picture. I need routine and structure and something other than my two nonverbal children to hold me accountable.
So how do I do that? I’m trying, but it’s an uphill battle! In a social media world, public humiliation is my weapon of choice. Our lovely blog leader Emily is holding me to a deadline for my Marvy Moms blog posts. I’ve joined Facebook accountability groups for minimizing clutter that require before and after pictures. I’m making a Facebook book club in an effort to read AND get out for some much-needed adult socialization. I even bought a pretty new planner that fits in my wallet and I’m making my husband sign like I’m a elementary school student finishing their homework. (Can I forge his signature? I was always really really good at forging my mom’s…)
What are ways that you keep yourself focused? Help a girl out in the comment section!